Manipulative tactics employed by narcissists to modify your character
In the intricate dance of human personalities, the relationship between echoism and narcissism stands out as a fascinating study. Echoism, named after the mountain nymph Echo in Greek mythology who lost her voice and identity, is the direct opposite or flip side of extreme narcissism.
While narcissists are self-centered, seeking attention and validation, and viewing themselves as special, echoists tend to avoid the spotlight, have low self-esteem, and rarely assert their own needs. They live by the rule of taking up as little space as possible, out of fear of seeming selfish or needy. This can lead to difficulty in expressing their own thoughts or feelings, and may involve a deep fear of rejection or criticism.
Echoism can develop as a coping or survival mechanism, especially in relationships with narcissists. For instance, a child growing up with an echoist parent might be constantly afraid that not meeting their mother's frequent teary or angry outbursts would result in losing her. This fear can lead to a pattern of people-pleasing and prioritizing others’ needs over their own, often at the expense of their self-identity and well-being.
This dynamic creates a mirror relationship: echoists reflect or “echo” the narcissist’s traits but in a way that suppresses their own identity. The two personality types exemplify shadow aspects of the same human traits — one seeks to dominate and be seen, the other seeks to disappear and please.
High levels of echoism can make life difficult by fostering self-sacrifice, lack of boundaries, and difficulty meeting one’s own needs, which is in stark contrast to the narcissist’s focus on self-aggrandizement. Echoists are incredibly empathic and attuned into the moods of others, but this empathy often leads to self-criticism and low self-esteem. They don't tend to feel special and rarely meet their own needs.
Echoists are drawn to narcissists because they fear being a burden to others or appearing too needy. However, having someone who enjoys being center stage and receiving more attention can bring a sense of relief for echoists. Being able to take pride in our achievements plays an important role in developing self-esteem, which echoists lack.
Understanding this relationship helps in recognizing these traits and addressing their impact in personal dynamics and healing processes. If you find yourself in a situation where you feel your identity is being suppressed, it might be beneficial to seek help from a professional, such as Dr. Craig Malkin, a psychologist, lecturer of psychology at Harvard Medical School, and author of "Rethinking Narcissism" and "The Narcissist Test."
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- The study of echoism and narcissism in human personalities offers insights into the complex relationship between two opposite yet connected personality traits.
- In terms of science and psychology, echoists, like their namesake Echo, have low self-esteem, avoid attention, and frequently suppress their own needs to avoid rejection or criticism.
- The field of health-and-wellness and mental-health professionals can help individuals understand and address the impact of echoism and narcissism in personal dynamics and healing processes.
- Space for personal growth and identity development can be found by recognizing the existence of extremes in narcissism and echoism, and seeking professional guidance when needed.
